Gettin divorced!!!

[Cranky]

Good luck man....and if you ever plan on getting married again, please shoot yourself in the foot instead! Been there myself and it's no fun but marriage can be a ton of work. Is it worth it? It can be. I remarried in 86 and we're still together but it's been tough at times. My dad was married 8 times! and I used to call him Henry the 8th (his name was Henry) but he and my mom stayed together for 17 years until her death when I was 12. He worked very hard to get out of debt and didn't remarry until many years later but something happened to him after that. That marriage didn't last long and neither did the next several but the last two did last for many years. My last step mom was pretty cool but alzheimer's got her and she went through that crap for 5 years. My dad took care of her like no tomorrow but he passed away in the middle of her 4th year of that crap. A few months later she went. Don't know how old your girls are but try to stay in touch as much as possible and don't let the X push them away from you. My X did that and now that my daughter is nearly 29, she rarely speaks to me and when I try, it seems that nothing I say is the right thing. It sucks.

 

[plowman]

Now is the time to post nudie pictures of the ex-wife.[/ Are going to beat me to it.

 

[conv67bdere]

Good luck man....and if you ever plan on getting married again, please shoot yourself in the foot instead! Been there myself and it's no fun

Sorry about that . . . it does suck . . . but it does get better . . . been there and done that too.

Cranky has a lot of good advice . . . keep in touch with the girls, I did with mine - including driving half across the state to attend their band competitions ( the other parents were always amazed that I'd show up as I lived 150 miles away from my girls ) . . . wouldn't have changed it for the World ! ! !

Keep the chin up . . . better days are in the future for you ! ! !

 

[scotts74birds]

My dad spent $50,000, fighting over $40,000 with his second wife. He admitted that to me. What is the price of moving on with your life? You can always make more money. Sometimes it's best to bite-the-bullet and offer large cash up-front, against future entitlements, I.E. pensions. Not to be insulting to women, but many will grab at the big payday vs the even bigger one over time.

 

[moparcanuck]

For every door that closes, another one opens. Best of luck.

 

[44070dart]

good luck ..fresh starts can be incredible ..may not seem it right now but in time ...

 

[rsd859]

WOW guys!!!! Thanks for all of the support and encouraging words. Doors are opening and there is light at the end of the tunnel. Ive asked her not to contact my family yet she keeps doing it to try to turn them on me. It isnt working tho, they know how she is. It truly is for the best and I did want to thank her for not taking one of the few things that means alot to me but im not going to waste my breath.

As far as nudes go....you wouldnt be interested lol 5'6" and about 220.....she has a pretty face tho lmao!!! Im dating this new chick who has her stuff together...career, masters degree, young, runs marathons....smokin hot thats the one you want pics of!

The time i get with my girls is so much better than when i was together with the bitch, we are connecting better and having lots of fun. she wouldnt let me have them more cause she wants that cash but its going to catch up to her in due time and she will be the one paying for it ultimatly.

 

[Lowhound]

How old are your girls? I have twin girls & went through my divorce when they were just under 2 years old. I believe its better on kids when the divorce happens when they are younger. I got lucky myself, I get my girls 7 days on, 7 days off. So half the time as opposed to every other weekend. Plus she ended up paying me support because I became disabled, which was the main reason for the divorce in the 1st place. Hang in there & don't trust a word she says, but act as if you do & you may find out a few things that can help you down the road.

 

[rsd859]

My girls are 13 and 8....the young one is having the hardest time. I have an odd schedule, but there are times i could take them that she wont allow which is total BS. Im paying 425 a month for support. If i had them more it would be less....

 

[Lowhound]

Most try to use the children as leverage which they shouldn't. They just try & do things to show that they are in control. I would be more concerned about the 13 year old. Being a teenager these days is bad enough. Sometimes the quietest one is the one suffering the most on the inside. My Ex gets support for my step daughter from her other Ex. Funny thing is that she ******* about him not paying support half the time. While I just spent 5 months tracking down her newest employer so I could restart her payroll deduction for support. Go figure.

 

[747mopar]

Reading these kind of stories makes me thank my lucky stars that the bitch I was engaged to 15years ago showed her true colors before we got married "close one". Been happily married for 11 yrs now, things will get better and you'll find the right one "until then, spoil those girls".

 

[Tempest 455]

I thought it was the end of the world when I went through it. A year later met the most incredible woman in the world. Have 2 awesome kids and have been married 19 years. My Mom always used to say, "things happen for a reason".

 

[Hemi Rebel]

Good luck. I'm sure things will pan out ok. This is why both my mopars are not titled in my name. One is in my sisters and the other is in my mothers name. And god I hope it never comes down to it cause once I post this its on the internet for any good divorce attorney to find.

 

[roadrunnerman]

Sorry to here about your situation. I have been thru it twice. My 3rd wife I have now is the best. Been married only 8 years and we have never argued once. When you get a chance, you can explain to your girls about why you and their mom had to split. I hate to say it, but sometimes it's better on the kids if the parents do get a divorce rather than fight all the time. Hope everything works out for you.

 

[Richard Cranium]

As far as nudes go....you wouldnt be interested lol 5'6" and about 220.....

I'm sure that there are some here would be! :laughing6:

 

[Hemi Rebel]

Yeah man. She is built for speed. Wide and low to the ground :blob1:

 

[ODZKing]

Sorry to hear my friend. I've been there and has been stated before, it is rough starting over. But one day, you'll find a new partner and wonder how you never net before.
Glad you got the keep what you wanted, Best of luck.
It can only get better.

 

[brasil]

Welcome back home here ! I wish you all the best for your future....

And remember.... the sun is rising every day !

Greetings from the other side of the world
Juergen

 

[66Satellite_in_NC]

Like many others, I have been divorced 2 times. The best advice is the ones given so far, it sucks to rebuild financially and emotionally from something like this but the old saying is true, "what don't kill ya makes you stronger". You have a support group here on this site in case you need to vent. Good luck and stay strong.

 

[Cranky]

My dad spent $50,000, fighting over $40,000 with his second wife. He admitted that to me. What is the price of moving on with your life? You can always make more money. Sometimes it's best to bite-the-bullet and offer large cash up-front, against future entitlements, I.E. pensions. Not to be insulting to women, but many will grab at the big payday vs the even bigger one over time.

My dad did a similar deal when he got divorced from his 3rd wife but what baffled me is that he tied the knot 5 more times!!!