Hardest decision of my life

[HEMI-ITIS]

My father took a turn for the worst and was transferred to intensive care.He's been in & out of the hospital & etended care for a few monthes.His quality of life has been gone for quite some time.He has congenitive heart failure & renal failure,the kidneys are only working at 30 to 40%.If they give the meds to raise the blood pressure it would shut down his kidneys.The decision was made to transfer him to a hospice to keep him comfy & out of pain.He has only days left here on earth.Lost my 84 yo mom 2 1/2 years ago and he hasn't been tha same since,he's 87.This pic is at Lauderdale airport when I brought my parents back to NY to try and save my mom.

 

[Ron 73]

Im truly sorry to hear this man, I know all to well whats its like having to watch your dad thru all this, there aint thing one someone can really say to ease the pain. Your in our prayers here, My wife and I have both had to deal with this pain within a year of each others dad.

 

[fla 66 cuda]

Been there i know what your going thru lost my father in 88 i was in Korea [USAF] when i receved that call never was able to see him before he was gone to make amends for being a bad kid,lost my mother in 05 she had fallen while in rehab and went down hill fast i spent three days in icu with her they were able to give the drugs to raise her pressure but did not help [her blood vessels were like cheesecloth] after speaking with her doctor and the nurses i discontinued life support.It was a hard decision but she was suffering and would never recover she's in a better place now [she was never the same after my father died] now they are reunited and waiting for me. I wish your all the best and your in our prayers, remember any decisions you make will be in their best intrests.

 

[Joe Mopar]

Sorry to hear this, keep the faith.

 

[detmatt1]

Sorry to hear. That can't be easy to deal with, thoughts and prayers are with you, stay strong like they taught you.

 

[68sportsatelliteragtop]

Sorry to read about your Dad's failing health. Nothing is harded then having to make decisions on what is best for others. I am sure he is proud to have a son like you, strong and able enough to help him during his last days. We can only hope for the same when our time comes. Remain strong, and God Bless.

 

[Benji]

Great shot of you and your parents. It is apparant that he was a great man who loved his wife and his family. What more could one ask than to have a father like that. I'll be praying for you.

Benji

 

[CtownChris]

Your doing the best anyone can ask. Always hard but feel good about the quality and support, comfort U have provided both your parents. Be there for your Dad, I'm sure he is scared and just knowing someone loved is beside him is all that can be asked of anyone.
Right now quality time is just sitting there next to him. Holding his hand. Reading a book. Looking at family pic albums if he is alert and up to it.
God bless and God speed.

 

[Red63440]

Do what you need to do to make him comfortable, being there for both of them during their worst time make a huge difference, both for them and you.

 

[1badstroker]

Sorry to hear that, I went thru it in 2000, 2007 with my parents and 2006 with my father in law and it is a tough thing to handle. God Bless and you will get through it ok.

 

[mrkinger]

God Bless.

 

[moperformance]

My mother died in my arms while I was saying "it's ok to go mommy". God Bless you! Looking back in a couple of years you will know that you did everything and more! cherish this time together because as hard as it is there is only the present.

 

[Budnicks]

My condolences, I lost my mother a few years back now & my father is getting close to that point now also, try to see him as much as possible, talk to him, be the good son like it sounds like you are... again I wish you well, it's hard to deal with your parents getting old & to this point in life, stay strong, my thoughts are with you & your father....

 

[alleyoopmgv]

Sorry to hear, God bless, prayers are sent to you and yours.

 

[Meep-Meep]

This is tough indeed and my prayers are with you and your family.

 

[HEMI-ITIS]

POPS was tranported to the hospice this afternoon around 2,my wife & I got there by 2:30 and he was already set up nice & comfy.2 outta 3 daughters made it to visit,but the baby{24yo} had to work late.We stayed till 6ish,went out for dinner and went home.I barely had time to read all your posts when I got the "CALL".POPS passed about 10:45 without pain in his sleep:cry:.I'm sure MOM was at the gate waiting for him:angel9::angel9:

 

[Meep-Meep]

Very similar to my situation with my step dad. I was on stand by that day and got a call from my sister that this might be it so I left early to go to see him. It was Fri night and traffic everywhere going to the city but I plugged along. He was pretty much out for the days prior but we all visited often when he was awake. We hung out in the room for about 20 mins then went downstairs to get a bite and returned a half hour later and he was gone. I think he waited for me to show up so we could all be together one last time. In the months prior to his passing he and I had a talk on the way back from a doctor visit about taking care of my mom if things went sour. I told him my plan and I think he trusted that everything would be OK. I think he was at peace. I'm sure your dad knew you guys were going to be OK and it was time for him to be with mom. May the lord have mercy on his soul.

 

[Budnicks]

Sorry to hear that, my condolences, to you & your Family, good to hear he didn't suffer & went peacefully...

 

[Joe Mopar]

My condolences to you and your family on the passing of your father, God Bless him.

 

[Ron 73]

Stay strong..Think of the good times!