It's been 10 years - no, it doesn't get easier...

[wagonwedge330]

I've lost so much it takes my breath away sometimes. Many were in December, so as many have already said, It's not the same. God bless all of you.

I hear you.....I really hate posting stories of loss, but sometimes I feel like even though I’ve met but a couple folks on FBBO, it’s the folks they seem to get it, and it’s easier to spill some thoughts to people we feel more comfortable with, whether by interweb or in person. Anyway, it’s this time of year loss hits us hardest.....I’m sorry for your loss....

 

[Budnicks]

May they all RIP...

 

[440RUSH]

Sorry you lost your father on Christmas Moparedtn and to the others here that lost loved ones on Christmas. My former employee and good friend lost his lady friend of 20 plus years this Christmas too. He is really hurt it happened that day. It was completely unexpected. She was only in her early 50s. God bless everyone who lost loved one at this time of year.

 

[Gus chiggins]

I lost my father when I was eight years old. The tragedy was never really knowing him. He was an infantryman in WW2, 42nd Infantry division, 232 Infantry. He was thirty nine when he passed away at Hines VA hospital in Maywood, Illinois Feb.1964.

 

[hdwrench]

thanks for sharing that , i lost my dad almost 55 years ago , i just a kid of 8-9 . i wasn’t with my dad when he passed but i’ve never been without him either ….

 

[Gus chiggins]

thanks for sharing that , i lost my dad almost 55 years ago , i just a kid of 8-9 . i wasn’t with my dad when he passed but i’ve never been without him either ….

The VA did not allow children into any of the wards.

 

[terrywalker]

It's tough when a parent passes away around a holiday. My dad fell and hit his head on Dec 24, 2019. I talked to him by phone (I'm 2500 miles away) on Dec 25th. He told me something was wrong with his head and he said goodbye. He quit talking shortly after and passed away Dec 31, 2019. My father-in -law fell and hit his head on Dec 24, 2021 and had to get stitches. My BIL was with him. He said it was like a light went out. He enjoyed a Christmas dinner the next day. On Dec 26th, they couldn't wake him up. He passed away on the morning of Dec 27, 2021. Holidays aren't the same now as we are 70 and approaching that time in our lives.
Terry W.

 

[hdwrench]

I lost my father when I was eight years old. The tragedy was never really knowing him. He was an infantryman in WW2, 42nd Infantry division, 232 Infantry. He was thirty nine when he passed away at Hines VA hospital in Maywood, Illinois Feb.1964.

sorry to hear . my father also a ww2 vet , army/ airforce stationed in burma . on the ground crew of the p51 nightfighter .

 

[moparedtn]

I lost my father when I was eight years old. The tragedy was never really knowing him. He was an infantryman in WW2, 42nd Infantry division, 232 Infantry. He was thirty nine when he passed away at Hines VA hospital in Maywood, Illinois Feb.1964.

We are all in your fathers' debt and I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing.

thanks for sharing that , i lost my dad almost 55 years ago , i just a kid of 8-9 . i wasn’t with my dad when he passed but i’ve never been without him either ….

I can't even imagine growing up without a dad. I'm glad to read he still looks after you, though.

It's tough when a parent passes away around a holiday. My dad fell and hit his head on Dec 24, 2019. I talked to him by phone (I'm 2500 miles away) on Dec 25th. He told me something was wrong with his head and he said goodbye. He quit talking shortly after and passed away Dec 31, 2019. My father-in -law fell and hit his head on Dec 24, 2021 and had to get stitches. My BIL was with him. He said it was like a light went out. He enjoyed a Christmas dinner the next day. On Dec 26th, they couldn't wake him up. He passed away on the morning of Dec 27, 2021. Holidays aren't the same now as we are 70 and approaching that time in our lives.
Terry W.

I'm sorry for your loss - and you're right about holidays not being the same.
Heck, I got a wife and a brother and sister left - and the latter two are "afar" relations at best, if you catch my drift.
That said, I've been trying to work past this time of year being so damn hard....

For example, I was thinking of past holidays as the wife and I go through the motions of putting up lights in the windows
and erecting a tree and all that this evening - you know, she does that for me more than anything....
Then I got notified of new posts on this thread of mine from three years ago and it's apparent lots of folks are all
carrying our own personal weights this time of year.
I'm glad some of you have felt comfortable enough to relate your own stories - I think it helps, I really do.
It does me, anyways.

 

[patrick66]

Mom was a huge fan of Classic Hollywood. The actors, directors, movies, all of it. If it was pre-1965, she could tell you everything about that film - cast, director, release year, Oscar wins, you name it. She taught me the love and appreciation of the Golden Era of film. It was her that motivated me to start acting in high school, and then later on in the mid-2000s. She had her first of many strokes in January 2009, and died Christmas Eve 2012. The last time I saw her was a couple of months prior. Her abilities overall had degrade significantly by that point, but she insisted she be able to watch one movie per day.

As a big fan of Turner Classic Movies, that was what her TV was always turned to. TCM was playing a series of 1920s films, and the one we were watching was the 1925 classic Soviet propaganda film Battleship Potemkin (it's actually a good movie, when you consider the context), and was a movie I'd never seen before. Mom had, though. She knew the plot. Being a silent movie, it was a fascinating watch. She was always a fan of war movies. Dad never understood that, as he was never really a movie guy..

On the night she passed, she was watching It's a Wonderful Life. That is one movie that was hard to watch for several years after that, knowing it was one of Mom's all-time favorites.

 

[moparedtn]

Mom was a huge fan of Classic Hollywood. The actors, directors, movies, all of it. If it was pre-1965, she could tell you everything about that film - cast, director, release year, Oscar wins, you name it. She taught me the love and appreciation of the Golden Era of film. It was her that motivated me to start acting in high school, and then later on in the mid-2000s. She had her first of many strokes in January 2009, and died Christmas Eve 2012. The last time I saw her was a couple of months prior. Her abilities overall had degrade significantly by that point, but she insisted she be able to watch one movie per day.

As a big fan of Turner Classic Movies, that was what her TV was always turned to. TCM was playing a series of 1920s films, and the one we were watching was the 1925 classic Soviet propaganda film Battleship Potemkin (it's actually a good movie, when you consider the context), and was a movie I'd never seen before. Mom had, though. She knew the plot. Being a silent movie, it was a fascinating watch. She was always a fan of war movies. Dad never understood that, as he was never really a movie guy..

On the night she passed, she was watching It's a Wonderful Life. That is one movie that was hard to watch for several years after that, knowing it was one of Mom's all-time favorites.

Your mom sounds like she was one fantastic lady. Thanks for sharing her story with us.