My newest pet peeve

[WileE]

I'm just curious why you named your pet "peeve". And, is it a dog, a cat, a squirrel, a mongoose, an iguana ?

 

[Kern Dog]

"my bad". I could strangle them...

This pisses me off too.
To them, it may feel like an apology, an admittance of fault for an offense but to me, it comes across as lazy and incomplete.

 

[65Bel]

 

[dadsbee]

Todays parents seem to think it's the school teachers job to do their job. That's not happening since they outlawed throwing chalk and chalk brushes and took away the strap.

Our 29 month old Granddaughter gets nothing from us without saying Please and then Thankyou. "Milk Please"...

 

[KiwiKid72]

...or when they can't even be bothered to lift their eyes from their phone to acknowledge you.

 

[Skytrooper]

It is also a pet peeve of mine. I am very polite to my servers and when I say "thank you", I do expect a "you're welcome" response. The answer " No Problem" is rude and un-mannerly in my book. I do not make a fuss over it, but my tip shows it. Grow up and show some manners people. You are in the service industry.

 

[1967coronet]

It's just the new slang,
No I do not care for it myself but I do recall my dad having a simular problem with
( far out ) ect.
One i do not care for is.
(I got you )
no you dont.

 

[Budnicks]

Many times when I'm at a restaurant placing an order with a waiter/waitress, or at the register inside a store, I always make it a point to say thank you to the waiter/waitress when placing the order. The same goes with the cashier at a store. If that person happens to be in their late teens - mid twenties, more often than not, their response will be "no problem". Of course it's not a problem, because they just did their job! Is it too hard to show some manners and say "your welcome" like you should?

Does anyone else see this trend or am I just living in an area that is more rude than others?

Discuss.

How rude,
I'm the same way if I make eye contact with people I say hi
I was taught that by my Mom, seems to be common decency
even just walking down the street with my dog I do it...
Or in a store etc. thank you, your welcome
or whatever is relevant at the moment

I must say most people, do respond well to it...


My pet peeve;
Some look at you like wtf, like why are you even talking to me ?
it's mostly the 18-25 crowd pissed, they don't just get handed the cash
making $20 an hr entry-level jobs, instead of having to actually work,
like you took their time away from some BS on their freaken' "cell phone"
literally, prisoners of tech., they can't just put down...
Sad, truly sad...

Everyone one of them has horrid posture too
bent/hunched over all the damn time on the god damn phone...

not all,
but seems most of that age group now

I went into Tractor Supply, drove down to Sonora, to get dog food & treats
everyone is happy it seems young & old, even people working there
are all polite & courteous...

Safeway seems a bit off of late...

 

[The Rebel]

What's the matter, not feeling validated or affirmed?

Sounds like someone needs a safe space ...

 

[Budnicks]

...or when they can't even be bothered to lift their eyes from their phone to acknowledge you.

thanks RC for the meme

 

[DeltaV]

Does anyone else see this trend

I first heard "no problem" from servers and coworkers when I moved to Savannah in 2010 from upstate N.Y. I don't recall hearing it when I lived there. It's more prevalent here in Savannah nowadays, but we have a lot of people from Atlanta and out of state.

Something I hear from female servers clerks, and cashiers here is "sweetie", "darling", "love", and "honey". Almost any age and any ethnicity. I didn't hear any of those casual "terms of endearment" in upstate NY for sure.

BTW, the restaurant food in the N.E. is better than here.

 

[hdwrench]

It is the common response here as well.
They don't mean to be rude, it is just lazy English. I've had dipshits respond with no worries ....as if I had fears that my french fries would not be in the bag.

don’t take the french fries for granted. while traveling we had a quick pit and decided on mcdonald’s togo, looked at our order before driving off and guess what ? no french fries!!!well i go i ask ask about the order n the kid at counter gives me a so what schrug!!!so i ask to speak w the manager! i bet you guessed his reply by now , “i am the manager duuuude ……”

 

[chargervert]

Todays parents seem to think it's the school teachers job to do their job. That's not happening since they outlawed throwing chalk and chalk brushes and took away the strap.

Our 29 month old Granddaughter gets nothing from us without saying Please and then Thankyou. "Milk Please"...

The teachers are doing their jobs, turning their children into transgendered,entitled socialists who hate their parents and their way of life that provided for them their whole lives!

 

[Hey-O]

When someone tells me "Oh, you're fine!", I cannot resist but to reply "I know it."

I reply thanks, but not really.

 

[j-c-c-62]

I don't mean to sound like a grumpy old man about it, rather it's an observation of people who don't know manners.

Only Parents that have manners teach their kids manners.
You are Welcome.

 

[moparedtn]

no problem , you're welcome........ same thing

No, it's not. I agree with some of the others - this is a sign of lazy "coolness" rather than proper manners.
"You're welcome" should be ingrained into them as damn near an automatic response - if they were raised right.

Reminds me...
Interesting factoid (to me, anyways) about the Chick-Fil-A folks and how they work hard to make sure everyone
that works at their locations display the best customer service at all times:
Everything is always (and I've gone to them most of my life at various locations) very polite - and when you say
to one of them "thank you", they typically respond with "my pleasure" and a smile.
That's not an accident - it's part of their culture there, began decades ago with Mr. Cathy himself.

I'm also not sold on "appreciate you".

I can appreciate a gesture IE- I appreciate it.

...but I'm not sure I'm ready to commit to appreciating the person in their entirety just yet.

Well, it might be a regional thing - but here in the neck of the woods where manners are not only taught but
expected, I often say "appreciate it" in place of "thank you" (of course, with a bit of dialect in it - 'preeshate it".
When dealing with folks I take care of in my work, that's often expressed as "appreciate you".
Always mean it when I say it and it's always received with a smile.

Side note: with the large influx of out-of-staters in these parts these days, you can often tell in the store or
wherever when someone "ain't from around here". My approach with 'em? As always, I like to engage with
folks and sometimes when they've been passively rude or inconsiderate, I'll let them know that's not acceptable
around here - usually by saying "excuse me" on their behalf.
They get the message and usually will reply in kind, once they realize what they've done.
Spread the politeness!

 

[j-c-c-62]

...or when they can't even be bothered to lift their eyes from their phone to acknowledge you.

Or walk up to a business counter and they have a sign instructing the customer to turn off their cell phones, and they then proceed to answer the phone totally ignoring me the customer with money in hand waiting to give it to them.

 

[YY1]

No, it's not. I agree with some of the others - this is a sign of lazy "coolness" rather than proper manners.
"You're welcome" should be ingrained into them as damn near an automatic response - if they were raised right.

Reminds me...
Interesting factoid (to me, anyways) about the Chick-Fil-A folks and how they work hard to make sure everyone
that works at their locations display the best customer service at all times:
Everything is always (and I've gone to them most of my life at various locations) very polite - and when you say
to one of them "thank you", they typically respond with "my pleasure" and a smile.
That's not an accident - it's part of their culture there, began decades ago with Mr. Cathy himself.


Well, it might be a regional thing - but here in the neck of the woods where manners are not only taught but
expected, I often say "appreciate it" in place of "thank you" (of course, with a bit of dialect in it - 'preeshate it".
When dealing with folks I take care of in my work, that's often expressed as "appreciate you".
Always mean it when I say it and it's always received with a smile.

Side note: with the large influx of out-of-staters in these parts these days, you can often tell in the store or
wherever when someone "ain't from around here". My approach with 'em? As always, I like to engage with
folks and sometimes when they've been passively rude or inconsiderate, I'll let them know that's not acceptable
around here - usually by saying "excuse me" on their behalf.
They get the message and usually will reply in kind, once they realize what they've done.
Spread the politeness!

That was my point.
There is a difference in appreciating an act or a person.

I don't know the guy that opened the door for me.
I appreciate the act of opening the door, but I don't have enough info to blanket appreciate the entire person.

In your example, you do have additional information and corroborating history.

 

[Hey-O]

I'm a huge tipper and since the pandemic, many think sympathy is in their favor. This getting a tip because you want me to think you're just a lowly server or because your owner is having a hard time and needs me to make the servers living for them solely, is bullshit. I expect the one thing that is free and easy, being polite. I will always make a mention, in a joking way, "that this will reflect in the tip". If they respond in kind, I will too. No one needs to kiss my ***, but my money is given by me, to those that are just friendly, and polite. I know if you're a good person within the first few minutes. When I show up the second time, things only get better.

 

[toolmanmike]

I laugh at the youngsters at the cash registers taking your order. They wear hats to keep their hair under control around the food but they pull the bill of their caps down to cover their face so they don't have to look at you. God forbid that they would look you in the eye and and talk directly to you while taking your order!
9 times out of 10, that person will mess up the order and you'll get mustard on your french fries!