Like to mention something along this subject line I have before because it’s relevant about saying stuff; sexual harassment training. For a number of years ran a department that included around a dozen females. Some were married, others single/divorced. We had a nice working environment, guys/gals joked around and sometimes a little gritty making light of our genders. Some liked to flirt; but there were lines that wouldn’t get crossed. Some off work romancing? Yeah, there was. (That’s how my dad met my mother in 1948.) Then came the training sessions I had to attend about harassment.
All the things required to obey to avoid being fired. I asked the instructor if I could say “I like your new outfit.” Nope. “How about saying your new haircut looks great.” Nope. Then I asked as a joke “Can I say ya look like crap today.” The female instructor was NOT amused. It was obvious ALL this was slanted on male, not female behaviors. I said “Let me run this by you; just happened yesterday with a lady in my department as we were discussing a work issue in a humorous light; she told me to eat her shorts. Should I fire her today given our discussion here?”
Tell ya, a few gals could be gritty joking around. One time I was doing a branch training session, 70% of the employees were female. One yelled out “Strip him.” Another time I was writing stuff on the grease board and some giggling was going on while I had my back to them. Later found out it was because my *** wiggled as I was writing some stuff on the huge board. Gave a crap about it.
MO, get beyond this pussy-ant **** trying to make a tense work atmosphere walking on egg-shells. If someone crosses a line saying something that offends them, tell them and ask for an apology if they want one. 99% of people will get it. The 1% of the dipshits (I did have one guy like this) get put on notice to stop or be canned.