It was in the last place that I looked.
That phrase cracks me up. Of
course it was. Once you find it, you quit looking.
I think I fixed it.
I wired in a Bosch relay and gave it another test.
I put terminal ends on it that allowed me to connect to the factory wiring without cutting the stock stuff. I did this because I didn't have complete confidence that this was going to work.
Key on, the headlight doors shut. Okay, good so far. The doors got the signal to close like they should when the headlights are off. NO headlights with the key on. Good again.
Ignition on, press switch and the lights come on normally.
Ignition off, lights come on, doors don't move.
I think it is fixed. I can wrap it all up. Obviously I need to vacuum the carpets again too.
I find it odd that the stock relays worked fine with the stock wiring but got all screwy with the relay kit.