BC-
I feel awful for not seeing this thread before. I don't typically peruse the "non-car" threads on here.
I've now read the entire thread and my heart just jumps out for you, man.
I've walked some of what you're walking now (3 times "dead", 3 other times cancer and staring at possible #4 now).
No way to sugar coat it - it blows. It hurts a ton, especially if you eschew painkillers like I stupidly insist on doing.
Without getting too long-winded here, I admire your grit and determination and your amazing attitude especially - that one is incredibly tough to maintain at times, wish I'd done better with it sometimes actually.
Everyone deals with stuff the best way they can.
Mine was to get worked up and royally pissed off at it every time, which meant I wasn't that pleasant to be around sometimes - but that's what worked for me.
Cancer can go fruck itself, the bastard.
God bless you and keep you and again, apologies for not catching this thread sooner. You can bet I'm here for the duration now.