So when the car is loaded and you air up the shocks, it still puts pressure on shock crossmember. Do difference.
I assume you meant to say NO difference? Actually, there is a big difference. The air shocks give a 'boost' to help level the car so your safety chains don't drag, your headlights actually light the road instead of birds in the trees and help put some load back on the front end so steering is safer. THEY ARE NOT DESIGNED TO CARRY THE WEIGHT OF THE CAR FULL-TIME, INCLUDING WORKING AGAINST THE LEAF SPRINGS.
I'm not guessing on my answer. I sold Gabriel Air Shocks at the speed shop for many years. I can't count how many customers tried to return them after doing damage to their cross-members or cutting up tires because the air shifted in a corner. (I know, you can separate the lines.)
Used as intended, they're fine. A better choice for towing are Air-Lift airbags, which are designed to 'boost' but connect between the frame and axle housing, not the cross-member. However, they WON'T do what the OP wants to do...