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as to 'Harvey' or Dad's carsyou have my deepest & heartfelt condolences
for/to you & your family's & his friends' loss
sounds like he was a great guy, 66 (67) is way too young
May John RIP
I like how you're coping with it
a lil' humor helps too, I think most dad's would relate to that too
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my dad has said;
'When it's his time, he doesn't want a funeral
he wants a celebration of life party,
he doesn't want people wearing all black
& being all sad & crying'
he has chosen to be cremated
(I will spread his ashes where he wanted, his old favorite fishing spot)
& it's already paid for it thru 'the Neptune Society'
several years ago,
he has everything in a living trust/will, planned out very well
so no complication when he's gone
I'm the executor too
I will do exactly as he asked, to the letter
(he's been single for about 42 years now, after 3 failed marriages,
my mom was his 1st)
I lost my mother about 20+ years ago
She was about my age, now...
(I lost my beloved Lisa, about the same time too)
I'm my elderly father's caretaker, since 2007, he's 85 now,
he's lived with me since 2005, been in & out of hospitals...
(he really abused his body when young, 60 years of alcohol abuse
& tobacco, filterless Lucky Strikes for 40 years, tell he was about 50,
finally, quit, when he got COPD, he always thought/wrongly diagnosed as asthma,
then the 40+ years of eating **** food/junk food, even with me harping on him etc.)
Then in rehab for months each time after, each incident or surgery
for different ailments & surgeries
for the past 5+ years
he still has a pretty good sense of humor, sort of old school
thru out all the **** he's gone thru
a huge flirt with his nurses too
that's the way I want to remember him, when he's gone
not to be sad
(I'm sure, I will still be sad)
I can relate
his 1st car was my great grandfather's car, from his estate in SF Ca.
(he was one of PG&E's 1st full-time workers, worked there for nearly 50 years)
a 39 Ford coupe that had been parked after he thought the clutch was gone
he took the buss or trolly cars from then on
it had very few miles on when he parked it, like 250 miles they claimed
My Aunt Joan
Dad's elder sister owned it 1st, she bought it from his estate for $50
my granddad was a a person who believed you get what you pay for
he didn't give it to her (for $50 he pretty much did)
In like 1951-1952, when she was a sophomore at Berkeley HS...
When she got married to my Uncle Ron, he was being shipped off to Korean War
she sold the car to my Dad, she wanted a station wagon
for the alleged price of $250 (that' be pretty good money in 1954)...
When my Dad was starting as a senior at Berkeley HS, he graduated in 1955...
He drove that 1939 Ford 5 window coupe flathead v8 3 speed car for a time...
He married my mom, he knocked her up, when she was a sophmore in HS 15 y/o
(with my oldest sister Lori) then he got a 1949 Ford 4 dr, from Shell Oil fleet cars,
my Granddad Whitey/Elmer, Dad's father was an engineer VP at Shell Oil
he got good deals, for them when my dad & mom moved to Concord Ca. to start a family...
They owned the 49 Ford 4 dr until early 1958-ish, they sold it (not sure how much)
My Granddad bought another fleet car, a 57 Plymouth Savoy Plaza 2 dr wagon
for my Mom as a gift, I think it was when was announced my mom was pregnant again
with my middle sister Candy/Kathleen...
Car that they brought me home from the hospital in, in July 1959, from Concord Memorial
maybe why I like 2dr wagons so much...
Dad was working in Alameda for Shell Oil lubrication distribution deliveries,
he got an old (1955?) Buick Skylark or Century (?) about that same time frame
on the open market, for like $300, really nice car...
He divorced my mom, in early Jan 1961, she kicked him out for cheating on her
when I was about 18 months old...
He drove that old 55 Buick till like 1964, I remember riding in it well, lil' kid
like riding a couch down the hwy, floating like a boat...
While he was paying my mom $35 per kid/$105 a month child support,
with no alimony, single mom raising 3 kids, on a seamstress at Capwell's pay...
Dad was working on building a company, Orinda Stagelines & Deliveries
Mom gave him some mercy, cut him some slack, she could have gone after a bunch more...
She was never like that, never talked bad about him...
Dad bought several 1964 Dodge A100 Trucks & Vans for doing deliveries (4 total IIRC)
he wasn't doing real well yet, then he bought a new off-the-showroom floor in Sept. 1964,
a 1965 Skylark Convertible, red ext. & white top/interior lil' V8/auto...
I remember riding in that car, like it was yesterday along with my 2 older sisters,
top-down & cruising, like we were in style, towing his lil' 16' boat/50hp Merc
with the 2 labs he had, Flash & Barron going up to Pinecrest Lake...
It's up here in Tuolumne Co. some 200 east of where we lived then
to the lake, to go fishing & go camping... We went fishing & camping a lot...
Dogs farting while we were gaining altitude, it was funny as hell...
My Dad was always a cut-up doing something, making the miles go fast...
Fun times...
He got remarried wife #2, a hot voluptuous redhead 'Crystal, out of his league
she worked at a local bank in Laffeyett where they both lived...
She liked more sporty cars, she wanted the nicer things in life...
Dad was getting into Trucks, Fords specifically,
he bought a new 1970 F250 Camper Special & a 12' Six Pack Camper,
he was an avid fisherman/boater & camper...
He still had the 65 Buick Skylark for a time still...
(sold it after he got remarried to wife #3)
Crystal/She got an ordered new
1968 300hp 327 Corvette T400, Elkhart Green & saddle tan interior
they had them until she dumped his *** & took everything he had,
except a few pots & pans, his dogs, his record player/stereo system
& his huge record collection, after she caught him chasing skirts
old habbits never die...
Crystal kept the Vett, that car was never to be seen again...
I saw Crystal a few times, she really liked my 2 sisters & my Mom...
Move ahead a few years 1973 he gets remarried to a "bitch" wife #3 Patty
who had 2 young boys, now my new step-brothers
Mark a couple years younger, he was like 11
& Tim he was like 4 months younger than me 13...
They proceeded in adopting two foster children, 2 more sisters for me Noel & Brenda
that Patty wanted...
She had some POS car they got rid of, I don't remember what it was off hand...
& Bought a new off the showroom
1973 CJ5 304cid 3 speed Red with a white top & interior
my dad loved that Jeep, they still had the truck & camper too
Dad was a part owner in a shoestore chain 'Shoe Stable'
(Orinda Stagelines went belly up, after his second divorce)
He bought a 1973 Pinto 4 speed 4 banger, white with blue interior
Patty drove that mostly...
Dad also used it as a sales car when he started to work for Admiral Awnings...
He moves again, with wife #3 up into El Dorado Co., Garden Valley/Georgetown area
165 acres, a really nice place/ranch, he was doing well again...
He started his own business "again", now a Contractor, C contractor
AddOn Home Improvement Co. specializes in Awnings, redwood decks, and skirting
on mostly Mobile homes...
It was a booming business in that area in the early 70's
people getting away for the Bay Area or the Valley, inner-shittys,
more affordable living...
Now another new Truck for work
a 1975 F350 390cid 4 speed 12' flatbed dually, single cab white, blue interior
he still had the 73 CJ5 & the 73 Pinto (see a trend, lots of white vehicles)
he had them past the time I graduated HS...
I moved up to his place when I was in the summer, before my HS sophomore year...
He then moved for her career, he put "Patty" through college to get her Psychology degree...
They moved to Yreka Ca. shortly after I graduated HS 1977'
He traded the 75 Flatbed Ford in on a
1977 Silverado 4x4 350 4 speed, step-side shotbed, nice medium blue color
sold his company to some guy in Placerville, started driving a school bus
for Yreka HS...
Patty traded his 73 Jeep Cj5 in on some crap-box
1978 Ford Fiesta, piss yellow & plaid interior,
she wanted for gas mileage...
"Dad was totally pissed"
Shortly after that
Wife #3, She dumps his *** for her old HS sweetheart, a retired Capt. in the Navy...
He lived up there, part of the reason she took the job up north, so far away,
come to find out later...
Comeupins on Dad roles reversed...
Dad drove the 77 Chevy 4x4 PU for a while, he moved to Tuolumne Co. in 1980
traded it in on a
1984 F150 4x4 ext. cab 360 4 speed, Sierra Tan & brown, with brown interior
he drove that while he was a bus driver for Sonora HS School district
later traded that in on a 1994 F150 4x4 ext. cab long bed 302cid turd 4 speed
He bought a nice low miles barely used
1997 Safari 36' Class A motorhome, 5.9 Cummins turo & Allison 5 speed
exactly just like the one I had, pulling my Featherlite trailer racing,
he loved it so much he wanted one & he drove that like it was his daily driver...
He had also drove that 94 Ford truck until he retired in 2000,
when he sold it to my step bros. Dr. Mark...
Got rid of the motor home, in like 2007, when I moved up here permanently...
After that he drove my 2002 F350 Dually 4x4 ext. cab 7.3 PS Turbo 6 speed,
more than me since 2007
he drove it like a daily driver, he put 150k miles on it until I traded it in on the
2020 Launch Edition Jeep Gladiator Rubicon 4x4 Jeep/TJ 'white w/black accents'
(it's called Whitey, after my Granddads nickname, from him wearing white tennis tongs all the time)
with a special graphite gray/looks black & red accent stitching, all leather
'Launch edition' interior
Just so he'd have something more reasonable to drive daily, than my 1 ton diesel dually tow rig...
& 5th wheel Jayco trailer all over the damn country...
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