More and more things, parts, and products are being sourced from OUTSIDE the US, but sold by US makers of products. That's not necessarily a problem, but the US makes pretty darn good steel, wherein, some other countries are still trying to catch up.
Add to this, some guy in a communist society (where the divide between the haves and have-nots is very wide) is trying to get ahead by choosing lesser-costing, poorer-hardness steel to save a buck and make more profit.
Unlike a US mom-n-pop store, or a US business, few if any of his end-users will ever be able to contact him and whine about his crummy product. He never has to take responsibility for his selfish choices. And, he doesn't care about repeat customers. He makes an inexpensive product, and he knows there is an endless supply of US buyers willing to take a chance on his products.
These pushrods wearing out, sure seem like they're made of softer steel than NOS/OEM. That said, its better for the pushrods to wear than cutting a groove in the camshaft. Perhaps, it's by design.
Is spring tension from the pump at all a factor? Could that be out of spec? I've several engine examples where the engines are several 100K miles and little or no pushrod issue. I've reused these pushrods in a rebuild a number of times, and I cannot recall ever having to replace one after a rebuild. Am I just... lucky?