lost my best friend

[Moms68]

Sorry that cost you money, but that did help honor both of your friends wishes. Spending the money right now might sting, but in the end, it sounds like a decent way to both honor you friends memory as well as keep peace with the family you are close to.

Well done.

well, after much thought and conversations with the family, i have ended up buying 1 car and 4 post lift. I did pay fair market, and I am good with that, the money will go to his son, so , at the end of the day I honored his wishes, I ended up with 1 car and and helping his son.

I am a new member and am trying to read as many posts as time allows. The car posts are great, but your story and subsequent responses are so special. It's about life; the good, the bad, and the most important stuff. My close friend and I have known each other almost 50 years and after reading your story, I realize more than ever how short life is and how important a close friend should be.
You guys shared a special bond, one that is only physically undone. The memories last forever and I'm sure those will flood back when you get in his old car and turn the key. Peace brother!

 

[jprather]

I am a new member and am trying to read as many posts as time allows. The car posts are great, but your story and subsequent responses are so special. It's about life; the good, the bad, and the most important stuff. My close friend and I have known each other almost 50 years and after reading your story, I realize more than ever how short life is and how important a close friend should be.
You guys shared a special bond, one that is only physically undone. The memories last forever and I'm sure those will flood back when you get in his old car and turn the key. Peace brother!

Thank you ! you will find out there are very special people here, they are passionate about their mopars, but they are equally as caring about other people. you see the occasional dust up between a couple of members, but it doesn't get nasty. this is a really good place with lots of great people. I don't know how i would make it through this with out them.

welcome aboard !

 

[jprather]

good morning all,

well Todd's brother and father brought me the 4 post lift on saturday, man it was hard seeing his truck and trailer pulling in the drive knowing he wasnt in it. I couldnt watch them leave, was too painful , all I could think about was the last time we were together watching Todd leave my place, waving, honking and smiling.

 

[jprather]

I wish I could feel this way about my best friend...
10 years ago I followed my girlfriend one night up to his house and watched him let her in.....

ouch.. that would hurt, IMO a true best friend would never let a woman come between you, a true best friend would have been on the phone or face to face to telling you to dump her. and then hitting it

 

[jprather]

saturday will be 3 months since I lost Todd, man, when will this emptiness and pain start letting up

 

[jprather]

I know, i get up every day, put my head down and keep putting 1 foot in front of the other.. very hard to do somedays

 

[jprather]

i think we have all been there at some point in our lives, you would think the older we get, the "easier " it would be to accept and move on, seems to be just the opposite

 

[YY1]

The older we get, each time a friend passes, the more intimately it reminds us of our own mortality.

Not sure how the really old people handle it.

My wife's brother's wife's mother (whew) lost 4 friends to covid-19 this past year.

I was thinking of my lost cats yesterday and said out loud that I remember what each of their fur felt like.

Brought a tear to my eye but somehow validated that I did, in fact remember.
(and I could feel it like it was yesterday, or even right then)

It does not necessarily get easier but perhaps the painful thoughts get farther apart and the good memories eventually crowd most of them out.

 

[jprather]

thanks YY, do you remember this ?

 

[YY1]

Absolutely.

71, 72, 73 in a line

70 MPH on the parkway

 

[jprather]

good times, good memories

 

[YY1]

I have pics of the cruise lot somewhere.

 

[jprather]

i think this is the only 1 i have

 

[jprather]

Well,
I may not be buying one of Todd's cars, appraisals came back, I just dont have the kind of money they are coming up with ...

 

[jprather]

11 months ago yesterday, I lost Todd, took my Satty out for a spin, done a nice burn out for him, I dont have a youtube account so i cannot figure out how to post

 

[YY1]

Cheers.

Smoke 'em if ya got 'em.

 

[jprather]

Hi All,

I just need to vent. Todd is not the first person I have lost, but he has been the hardest. I have to tell you, I am still reeling over this one.
I know from past experiences the loss should get easier to accept over time, for some reason, that just doesnt seem to be happening.
I have tried so hard to keep moving forward, I put on my brave face and talk to his son and his parents everyday, I try to encourage them, I hang up with them and wish I could convince myself to take my own advice.
This is not the way I had ever pictured my life going, as I'm sure many of you have felt this way, we all want the same things at the end of the day. Problem is I no longer know what that is.
I find myself having lost interest in almost everything I care about. I have tried to take out my satty, but now, it just has no happiness in it. everything seems to have lost all appeal.
I am even considering moving out of my house to our in-law apartment next door. It's not that i dont want to be with my wife, I just want to be alone.. does any of these make sense ?? I dont know.
I am not trying to sound like a whiney little bitch, just need to vent to other guys who may have been here before

 

[4speed68rt]

Hang in there, for Todd. I'm sure he would want you to carry on with all the things that you had planned and dreamed about. I always think about my Brother in law when I am working on my car... I always ask myself, "what would he have done" in any particular situation.
Its nice to have people on FBBO to "vent" to or ask questions to , that maybe Todd could have answered for you. Its not the same, but it's something.

 

[Scott Engelhardt]

Hang in there.

 

[Hey-O]

Hi All,

I just need to vent. Todd is not the first person I have lost, but he has been the hardest. I have to tell you, I am still reeling over this one.
I know from past experiences the loss should get easier to accept over time, for some reason, that just doesnt seem to be happening.
I have tried so hard to keep moving forward, I put on my brave face and talk to his son and his parents everyday, I try to encourage them, I hang up with them and wish I could convince myself to take my own advise.
This is not the way I had ever pictured my life going, as I'm sure many of you have felt this way, we all want the same things at the end of the day. Problem is I no longer know what that is.
I find myself having lost interest in almost everything I care about. I have tried to take out my satty, but now, it just has no happiness in it. everything seems to have lost all appeal.
I am even considering moving out of my house to our in-law apartment next door. It's not that i dont want to be with my wife, I just want to be alone.. does any of these make sense ?? I dont know.
I am not trying to sound like a whiney little bitch, just need to vent to other guys who may have been here before

I have lost in my life also and the one bit of advice I will give you now is to get counseling before you lose what you have. You're headed that way and once you cross that line, you may not be able to reel yourself back in and then there will be two sets of life's destroyed. Go now!