Sorry for the loss of your friend. My brother in law died the same way,he bent down to tie his shoes when he was getting dressed for the day,and fell over and died,at 45 years old.
lost my best friend
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I have to share this with you, Todd had an awesome sense of humor, I was able to give him his final wish for a send off. hence the casket marked - RETURN TO SENDER, also, he wasnt exactly a flower guy, so instead of a floral spray on the casket, he wanted car parts ! So me and my son built this ...
NJRR
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Awesome tribute !!!!
Sorry for your loss I only got to meet him once but he left an impression of me
I just wanted to take a min to thank each and everyone of you for you condolences and prayers, this is a great community we have here.
well, i pulled it off, i made sure he got the send off that he and i had spoke about , never thought i would be in a position that i would have actually had to do it.
we had 4 guys from the area that saw my postings on sons face book, so they completed the muscle car escort.
after the service, we toasted Todd with a shot of 1792, his cup went with him, as well as a 10 mm wrench ( maybe he can hang on to this one ), a cigarette in one hand, and lighter in the other, his trump flag and hat, his large Styrofoam coffee cup for his coffee, a pair of his sweat pants ( so he can get comfortable), his sons " sleep buddy " stuffed animal, and numerous pics. and of course on the way out, i asked his father ride with me back home is Todds Charger, I was obliged to light em up 1 last time on the way out ( you should have seen the smile on Ronnies face ! ). afterwards, we had a send off party, Todd would have loved it !
again , thank you all !
well, i pulled it off, i made sure he got the send off that he and i had spoke about , never thought i would be in a position that i would have actually had to do it.
we had 4 guys from the area that saw my postings on sons face book, so they completed the muscle car escort.
after the service, we toasted Todd with a shot of 1792, his cup went with him, as well as a 10 mm wrench ( maybe he can hang on to this one ), a cigarette in one hand, and lighter in the other, his trump flag and hat, his large Styrofoam coffee cup for his coffee, a pair of his sweat pants ( so he can get comfortable), his sons " sleep buddy " stuffed animal, and numerous pics. and of course on the way out, i asked his father ride with me back home is Todds Charger, I was obliged to light em up 1 last time on the way out ( you should have seen the smile on Ronnies face ! ). afterwards, we had a send off party, Todd would have loved it !
again , thank you all !
I am so sorry for your loss
Man, this is way harder than i could ever imagine. been 2 1/2 weeks, things are starting to sink in, i find myself reaching for my phone to text or call Todd, or seeing if I missed one from him. or re-reading texts and emails.
God knows I miss him.. sorry I just needed to vent
God knows I miss him.. sorry I just needed to vent
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Friendships like this is what we all cherish. My condolences. Keep positive and head high as previously posted.
ZR9B
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This is one of those threads I had to read every post...God bless.
Loved the casket!!
Loved the casket!!
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Mate, you need to focus your memories on all the good times you had together, and know that he's looking down on you and will be looking out for you too.
Imagine it was you and not him that passed away. You wouldn't want your friend to be on a downward spiral in grief and he wouldn't want you to be doing the same.
Focus on the positives, focus on your family, focus on your mopar, and keep those good memories at the front of your mind.
Imagine it was you and not him that passed away. You wouldn't want your friend to be on a downward spiral in grief and he wouldn't want you to be doing the same.
Focus on the positives, focus on your family, focus on your mopar, and keep those good memories at the front of your mind.
Thanks Guys,
i think what makes it so hard is we are men, and men are supposed to be strong and not emotional.
Ya know he always told me i couldn't go first, because he wouldn't last with out me, because I was his only friend.
Your right, I would not want him to go through this , i would want him to be strong and carry on, be there for my kids. I talk to his son, brother and parents everyday to try to keep them strong.
wife says i am shutting her out though, I dont mean too, but I am emotionally drained by the time i make those phone calls.
I will eventually figure this out
i think what makes it so hard is we are men, and men are supposed to be strong and not emotional.
Ya know he always told me i couldn't go first, because he wouldn't last with out me, because I was his only friend.
Your right, I would not want him to go through this , i would want him to be strong and carry on, be there for my kids. I talk to his son, brother and parents everyday to try to keep them strong.
wife says i am shutting her out though, I dont mean too, but I am emotionally drained by the time i make those phone calls.
I will eventually figure this out
I get everything you're saying about your friend, his family and being emotionally drained, but, don't put this all on you. Time to slow down and think about your wife and how this is affecting you and her.
YY1
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I know you can't really put cats and people on the same plane, but both the cats we lost this year were very strong "personalities" and very large presences in out lives.
Their circumstances were very different. One had no warning, the other way too much.
The differences compound to actually make worse the loss of the other.
The thing I do have is that my wife is in the same situation.
We are still not dealing with the loss very well since one literally changed our lives and the other was the immediate next addition and very strong and unique.
We find relief in sharing memories and discussing the positive influences.
...and generally end up in tears or very close to it.
This can work even if you are the only one sharing the memories, but the point is to share them.
...and let your wife be a part of it.
My wife is truly my best friend and soul mate.
This situation is where that comes into play.
Their circumstances were very different. One had no warning, the other way too much.
The differences compound to actually make worse the loss of the other.
The thing I do have is that my wife is in the same situation.
We are still not dealing with the loss very well since one literally changed our lives and the other was the immediate next addition and very strong and unique.
We find relief in sharing memories and discussing the positive influences.
...and generally end up in tears or very close to it.
This can work even if you are the only one sharing the memories, but the point is to share them.
...and let your wife be a part of it.
My wife is truly my best friend and soul mate.
This situation is where that comes into play.
I do need to share this, Todd had made several comments over the last year that he felt he didn't have very long, he didn't know why he felt this way, so i kinda brushed it off. Last night my daughter came to me with a book, she said " Uncle Todd gave me this book about a year ago with the explicit instructions that i keep and and give it to you if something should happen to him : it is the book " Embraced by the Light ", he told her he had highlighted and made comments in the book for me. I broke down into tears, hell, I'm still fighting them back.
she said he told her it would help me understand where he is and how I should accept it ( what i should do ).. I am at a loss for words.. I just cant read it right now, but that was Todd, always looking out for me
she said he told her it would help me understand where he is and how I should accept it ( what i should do ).. I am at a loss for words.. I just cant read it right now, but that was Todd, always looking out for me
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My thoughts are with you sir! I never had a brother but had a friend as you did. He’s gone now too and I still have a place in my heart just as you will! Take care and stay strong!
I wanted to thank everyone again for your thoughts and prayers, still having some very tough days, But I wanted to share this with you. i received this saturday from Todd's Oldest brother . Best christmas present of the year, and one i will always cherish
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