Worst night of my life

[Daniel Brunner]

Hi FBBO
I want to get rid of something and I need help.
A lot of you guys are in older age so you collected more experiences than me with 21.
I try to make it short:
A few weeks ago I met a girl on a dating platform and we understood each other pretty good. At first it was nothing serious sexual wise but we saw a possibility of a relationship in the future if we get to know each other better. So she suggested to get out clubbing together with her girl-bestfriend (they share an apartment together). That night there was no kissing or dancing together hand in hand because she said we should take it slowly and not overrun anything. I respected that. Later at the bar table there was a very drunk guy just running around like crazy. After few minutes he ran towards us, grabbed my date and wanted to dance with her. She was smiling and didn’t seemed turned off by the drunk guy. I stepped between them and wanted to smack him in the face for that. My only thought was: „oh so you said to me let’s get to know each other better slowly and then you just take the most silly man in the room and dance with him like I am invisible for you??!“
He went off fast and my date was pissed af. 10 minutes later the girls wanted to drive home. At their apartment I had not even parked and her girlfriend jumped out of the car. I shut off the motor and as soon as that she said „WHERE ARE YOU GOING? WE HAVE TO TALK!“
So the next 5 minutes our discussion only contained of „WE ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP I CAN DANCE WITH WHOEVER I ******* WANT!“ I tried to explain her I felt very abused and fooled by her. She got angry and so me. I stepped out my car and SLAMMED the door that made her even more rude. So she stepped out and screamed at me on the street at 3am. I stayed calm and suggested I drive home and let this all settle over the night. But no chance. 20 minutes long I tried to tell her that it’s not okay what she had done and that I felt very fooled. She didn’t cared at all. After I emptied my beer I had at the club at the nearest bush I couldn’t take it any longer. Went to my car started the engine and just wanted to get home. I was too slow to lock the door so she ripped it open. I said very loudly „I DONT CARE ABOUT THIS DISCUSSION NOW! JUST PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE GOOD NIGHT!“
she responded: „WELL I LEAVE YOU ALONE FOREVER NOW YOU SUCH A ******** ONLY BECAUSE YOU CANT GET ANY GIRLS I DONT HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU! DONT DARE SHOWING HERE UP AGAIN!“

at home I saw I was blocked everywhere from both girls. My blood is boiling and she still owes me 40€
I can‘t sleep
I like her and now ways are parted at the worst way possible.
So I can’t get in contact anymore and I‘m the lifelong asshole now.
Do you guys think I should throw an apology letter in her mailbox (I know I don’t have anything to apologize and I already did it several times for nearly hitting the drunk guy)

I like her a lot and we always had a great time when meeting up
These scenes can’t get out of my head it’s driving me really crazy.

What can I do to calm myself and get her to know how I felt about all that?

 

[Jerry Hall]

Move on, it's not worth the worry, trouble, or hassle. You are smitten but will recover. My opinion only, married 57 years to the right one.

 

[Mopar Hunter]

Dump her! There’s more fish in the water.

 

[Kern Dog]

Unless you're ugly, fat and really stupid, you have other options.
I don't know you so I'll assume that you are just a regular guy that got attached.
Guess what? There are MILLIONS of other women out there. Not all of them look like this:

Or this:

But sometimes the real good looking ones are boring as an insurance seminar. Personality does matter and can make a mildly attractive woman a whole lot more fun and interesting that a beauty queen.
Forget the immature scallywag and move on.
Oh, if THIS was the worst night of your life, just wait.....you have a LOT more coming in the next 40 years!

 

[Mopar Hunter]

Doesn’t matter what she looks like, if she’s willing to work on cars, she’s a keeper.

 

[eldubb440]

worst night of your life?

you ain't lived yet!

and the girl? Run Forest Run!!!!

you'll figure out most females are nuts, and it only gets worse with age

Thank your lucky stars you're a free man, I'd trade with you in a heartbeat

 

[Daniel Brunner]

Unless you're ugly, fat and really stupid, you have other options.
I don't know you so I'll assume that you are just a regular guy that got attached.
Guess what? There are MILLIONS of other women out there. Not all of them look like this:

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Or this:

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But sometimes the real good looking ones are boring as an insurance seminar. Personality does matter and can make a mildly attractive woman a whole lot more fun and interesting that a beauty queen.
Forget the immature scallywag and move on.
Oh, if THIS was the worst night of your life, just wait.....you have a LOT more coming in the next 40 years!

She was not a 10/10 woman like in these pictures.
But where you hit the point in this case was the sentence about personality. Thats why I continued meeting up.

Looking forward I think you guys are right. I should take the suggestions from all of you to my mind.

As a small town-guy it’s always a bigger issue to find someone new but I guess there’s nothing else left

 

[kiwigtx]

She sounds like a total nutcase....best advice yet is to run like hell. Don't even think about trying to make up with her.

Being treated like you were is a big enough red flag. There'll be another woman that will be much nicer....soon.

 

[66 Sat]

She's shown her true colours already.
DO NOT APOLOGISE. You haven't done anything wrong.
She had her chance and blew it.
Move on and find a better girl. Sticking with this one is setting up a lifetime of heartache.

 

[QuickBpBp]

She did you a favor and showed her true colors on the first "date". Like others said there are plenty of other women out there. Do what you do and try to find one that way verses hunting on dating sites. That way you have a chance to find one that shares your same interests. I lucked out and found a good looking normal one so they are out there. Good luck and sadly you will run into more like her...

 

[RR Fan Dan]

 

[MoparJW]

Don't take them serious, don't get invested, especially at that age.
If they don't behave, leave.
''Rules for thee but not for me'', that's girls nowadays.

 

[Speedbird]

The best advice I can give any you person is to marry a friend. Someone that cares about YOU.
And you care about HER.
You both are going to get old and ugly if you live long enough.
Don't be superficial.

But do you like her?
About 50 seconds.

 

[Jeff Peterson]

Need some Women advice guys.

 

[Southbranch]

If you patch things and get back together then you'll have the worst night of your life.

 

[hemi*guy]

If she did that in front of you,imagine what she might do if you are not around.

 

[Dutchrebuild]

She sounds like a self centered drama queen...drop her like a bad habit, and don't lose anymore sleep. Unfortunately there will be many more like her...got to learn to weed out the trash

 

[Charles Cook]

Dear Abby, I have this friend that got really lucky last night. The girl he was with showed her true colors and he is upset.
What should he do?

Run and don’t look back.
PS check and see if her friend would like to go out.
Abby

 

[Mackman]

Just ask yourself one question when dating. “Is she an asset or a debit”.

 

[JackR]

Go buy a lottery ticket. You have some good luck happening with finding out who she really is early on.