Go with the tall toilets. We did, and so much easier to use for us tall old people. Bad knees and hips will thank you if you have them. It's surprising how much difference the 2" difference between standard vs chair height toilets makes!
We remodeled the house around 2003 and put them in but still have a standard one out in the shop's bathroom. At least that room is small and can grab onto the sink and even the doorknob if needed. If both of those let loose, there's still a towel bar within reach lol
Part of the reason for installing bar on outside of shower (vertical) I will be able to grab bottom of bar to help out with that. Geez, can’t believe we are discussing this.
Unfortunately, most people that are employed by the Eldercare places aren't very well paid and/or qualified. My Mom recently visited her cousin in an expensive nursing home facility. She found him filthy, near death, and with an empty oxygen canister in the floor beside his bed. He was supposed to be on the damn oxygen! She called in the gov't agency in charge of this kind of stuff and then the family moved him to a different facility. He is doing OK now. There "may" be charges pressed against the nurse that unhooked the bottle and didn't replace it... But I expect nothing will come of it.
So sorry for Billy's and your loss! There's just way too many stories like this that are floating around about health care so called 'professionals'....it's nuts. Then the company wants to deny any wrong doings. Pisses me off so much!
Another series of reasons why none of us want to end up in a ‘care’ facility. Damn, having relatives and friends end up there – FEW good stories. My uncle had MS eventually dying from it. The ‘care’ he received was typically pathetic, same story when he spent time in a VA hospital. My God walking by rooms was a horror story. My uncle was 100+ miles from us. My mother would drive there weekly despite working FT, to visit him, spending a good part of the visit just cleaning him up and moving his body to a more comfortable position as he eventually couldn’t move at all. Half off the bed, snot hanging from his nose, and worse. Always excuses from staff “We just checked on him.” Shitty deal from any angle.
My dad had a good outcome with a long term care facility. However, he was fortunate to have the opportunity to get in on the ground floor, with no waiting period, for the independent living tier, where he lived for 9 years before entering the full time nursing section. Same place today has a ten year wait to get in, so you essentially have to sign up at least a decade before you need care. My wife and I got on the list five years ago, when she turned 65. They won't let you in if you can't live independently when you enter. They make money on the gamble they likely won't have to provide care at the end. Odds are about 70%, in favor of the facility.
13 Grand per month! It would be cheaper for her to go on a year long sea cruise. They have medical staff on those ships, good food, and activities.
Yet. Reality bites. My spouse says it sucks that she could never duplicate my performance with high performance mobility gear (forearm crutches, and ultralight wheelchair.) Her choice, she will use low end medicare junk before it’s over.
I had been aware of outrageous costs before but nothing like this. Seems that anyone having nice cash having to go into a home should know it'll take all ya got or go bankrupt so the state takes over and hope for a decent facility to be sent to. Some have dumped their money to kinfolk; though think it has to be a good lead time, don't know.
